tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2319648175412671268.post2074027515246072634..comments2023-03-28T02:25:09.827-07:00Comments on Angel Baby Alexandra: A Loss is a Loss is a Loss.Melissahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05941243176631758871noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2319648175412671268.post-66890623167777024192010-06-24T05:43:09.023-07:002010-06-24T05:43:09.023-07:00Having miscarried in the early 1st tri, and then l...Having miscarried in the early 1st tri, and then losing second tri babies who lived for a little while, I agree. The pain of having a child die- no matter their age- is devastating and incomparable.Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2319648175412671268.post-42141740726462406382010-06-24T03:05:08.464-07:002010-06-24T03:05:08.464-07:00I really needed to read this today. My heart hurts...I really needed to read this today. My heart hurts with the constant grief competition. I am sick of people, including those very close to me, comparing losses. Twice in the last week I have had people give me the "It could have been worse" statements. I didn't ask them if it could have been worse. I didn't ask them to compare.<br /><br />And you know what? I lost my child. There is no way that it could have been worse.<br /><br />Thank you.<br /><br />Daisy Li--Gabriel's Mama <3Daisy Linoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2319648175412671268.post-15899726948765288672010-06-23T16:11:48.957-07:002010-06-23T16:11:48.957-07:00Well put. The other day on BBC someone brought th...Well put. The other day on BBC someone brought this up and I was quite disgusted with what some people were saying. A LOSS IS A LOSS IS A LOSS.<br /><br />My daughter lived for 10 weeks in utero. I knew the moment she died. My suffering is hard. Losing her and still carrying her sister, that's harder.<br /><br />This is a beautiful post. You should repost it in your journal on BBC. I seriously want to copy and paste it to my blog :) (i want, it's just that good though)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2319648175412671268.post-11947234644415717312010-06-23T09:29:02.891-07:002010-06-23T09:29:02.891-07:00Very well said Melissa.
I believe that our Spirits...Very well said Melissa.<br />I believe that our Spirits are eternal, meaning we have no ending but we also had no beginning. I fully believe that we knew each other as Spirits before we were born and knew what family we would be sent to, etc. <br />When I was trying to cope with the pain and loss I felt after losing my son even though I had never felt him kick and didn't even know that he was a he until I gave birth, I realized that it is so hard because my Spirit knows and loves him. Our Spirits are connected and always will be, so my Spirit was grieving a very real and profound loss. This knowledge was comforting to me because even though I never met him as a living, breathing outside of the womb human, I still know him.<br />Hope that makes sense.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16050939327880849481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2319648175412671268.post-16570483056176115682010-06-22T15:19:01.410-07:002010-06-22T15:19:01.410-07:00So very well said. <3So very well said. <3Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2319648175412671268.post-76749785128645011462010-06-22T14:48:25.952-07:002010-06-22T14:48:25.952-07:00I totally agree. There are a lot of women on BBC w...I totally agree. There are a lot of women on BBC who apologize for complaining about a baby they lost early on when there are others who have actually had a baby live and then die. I always tell them a loss is a loss. I KNOW that if I had lost my baby at 10 weeks I would definitely feel the same way I feel now...like complete shit and I hate that we feel like we have to validate our feelings. So sorry for people that categorize our losses and make us feel unworthy of feeling sadness. Thinking of you and every other person that has endured a loss.Kalialanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02098647635980489308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2319648175412671268.post-44783884502953109872010-06-22T11:03:38.708-07:002010-06-22T11:03:38.708-07:00Thank you. This means alot to me.Thank you. This means alot to me.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12180456542433820657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2319648175412671268.post-3385053085354677592010-06-22T09:57:02.705-07:002010-06-22T09:57:02.705-07:00A loss is definitely a loss, no matter what. I kno...A loss is definitely a loss, no matter what. I know many people who had early & late losses, but their feelings are all the same. Thinking of you.Maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13339073098081631983noreply@blogger.com