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Sunday, May 22, 2011

No Regrets

I've been thinking a lot lately about grief, and if I could offer just one piece of advice to other women who have just lost a child it would be to take hold of your grief. Don't let other people pressure you into doing something regarding your loss that you will regret later.
Despite everyone else's feelings, Steve and I grabbed a hold of our grief, we did everything that we wanted and while we respected everyone else's opinions, we didn't let them guilt us or make us feel like we needed to do things their way. Some people were offended, some people were angry, some people felt that they deserved more than we had to offer them at the time of our loss, and I struggled with that. But I think that struggle was short lived, I realized that I was only going to be able to deal with this if I dealt with it my way. Everyone else is hurting, but this is my daughter, Steve's daughter, we have to do what is best for US. It's because of this one selfish decision that I have no regrets with how I dealt with the loss of my daughter...And really, I have no apologies either, I am sure that those that know me understand.


  1. I think that sounds like a great way to navigate through grief. We try and do that as well.