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Monday, February 28, 2011

Never "was" Always "is"

Sometimes I wonder if I'm the only one that does this...When I refer to my daughter I always say "Is" My daughter's name "is" Alexandra. I never say that her name "was" Alexandra, because her name still is Alexandra, even though she's not here with me.
I kind of feel like, my little girl would have been a lot of things and she's going to miss out on a lot things, a lot of days would have been important, and people refer to her birthday as "the anniversary" even though that drives me crazy...but there is one thing that we gave her, that identifies who she is, one thing that can't be taken away from her, one thing that will never be a "was" it always just IS and that is her name.


  1. I say "is" too. That IS their names.... it will always be their names. I do say "they would have been X years old" because, in my heart, folks in the Afterlife dont age like you and I

  2. Hi darling. I just wanted to say, that I am thinking of you as you go through this journey, you are in my thoughts, and you are a very strong woman :) I wish you were closer so I could give you a hug.